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Teen Saved From The Pitfalls of Poor Communication Methods

March 11th, 2008 . by 21st Century Dad

Poor Listening SkillsCommunication is central to every relationship. I dare say it’s the foundation. I touched on this briefly in a guest post over at 21st Century Parenting. The article addressed one of my pet peeves – people talking through walls and around corners.

Au-Teen does this all the time. As he’s walking out the door to go hang out with friends, he announces his intention in that sing-songy tone, “I’m going to hang out with Joel for a while.”

In our average sized home, he’s somewhat audible when he does this, but it’s a BAD habit. This isn’t communication. This is a teenage boy flapping his mouth under the assumption he’s been heard.

It almost bit him in the ass this past weekend. He went to the park with his friend Gabe. He announced this as he was walking out the door. I held him up.

“I was talking to mom.”

“No you weren’t. She’s not here. You need to address us face-to-face and get acknowledgment that your message was received. I’ll have none of this talking as you walk out the door crap please. See you later.”

I was more diplomatic in my guest post. We ran out of sugar, so you’re taking this one straight. I absolutely HATE IT when people try to have a conversation through walls and around corners. It’s one of the most annoying things Au-Teen does. Maybe it’s that sing-songy tone. Maybe he tries to weasel his way out of accountability when he’s called out for poor communication.

It’s often said, “pick your battles.” I’ll let him throw his dirty socks on the floor in his bedroom, but this one deserves a parental counter-attack of significant magnitude.

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One Response to “Teen Saved From The Pitfalls of Poor Communication Methods”

  1. comment number 1 by: Mike

    I choose to fight ALL the battles. Mainly because by time I think it’s a battle, I realize the girls have been gaming me for months. Aaahhh… Parenting.

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