In a recent conversation with Dan*, a father of a 3 year old girl, he related some of his experiences. Dan has partial custody of his child. He sees her every other weekend and one day during the week. Meanwhile, his share of childrearing costs is about 70%. His employer covers the child’s medical insurance. He earns more than the “baby mama,” but somehow, there is still something unfair about this.

Before it was time to send the girl back to her mother, he put the last diaper in the regular trash so its smell would linger. He missed her so much, he had to keep something.

*Not his real name.